Female bonding is never more powerful than when you’re a teen! Like food and water, friendships are a basic need -- a mandatory component to a girl’s happiness. So how can you safeguard your most important friendship? Here are some suggestions for keeping this bond kickin’ for the long haul!
1. Show you appreciate her Surprise her now and then with her favorite candy bar or magazine. Invite her to join your family when you’re doing something fun. Send her a ridiculously mushy friendship card … just because.
2. Listen when she talks She’s there for you when you’re down and never says, “You told me that already,” even if you have. Be there for her in the same way. Ask questions to show her you want details.
3. Put the friendship first Don’t blow your best friend off for people who might not be around forever. That includes the cute guy who asked you to his game when you promised you’d help her pick a prezzie for her baby bro’s b-day. Or the popular girl who invited you over Friday night after you and your BFF already made plans.
4. Keep her secrets Don’t ever betray her trust. Never spill anything she confides in you, unless it’s something that may put her in harm’s way. An example? If you know she’s been purging her lunch, you’re a good friend to tell a parent she needs help.
5. Always have her back Stand up for her, whether she’s around or not. She needs to know she can count on you to be on her side. If you happen to disagree with how she handles a particular situation, tell her -- but in private.
6. Let her know when you’re upset with her Work out problems rather than ignoring them. Anger and resentment build up when unexpressed. Don’t attack, just calmly tell her how you feel and why.
7. Apologize when you’re wrong Don’t get defensive. Instead, learn to accept who she is and not expect her to always agree with your view on things. Keep this in mind: It’s better to lose the fight than the friend.
While guys have friends to do stuff with, girls share their lives with their friends on an intimate level. These relationships are strong enough to raise self-esteem, battle peer pressure and genuinely last … forever. How lucky are we?!?
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to my bff
happy friendship day
Posted by miley, 8/3/09 at 4:57 AM
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awesome. they keep me alive
Posted by bffs, 8/3/09 at 3:08 PM
help
my friend abby has known me since 1st grade but she does not get me then i meet this girl haily and she gets me but abby does not want me hanging around her but haily under stands me unlike abby and abby is so mean to me but she makes me hang out with her but I dont help
Posted by BFF ALERT, 8/3/09 at 5:50 PM
To Jolene!!!
I love you Jolene! You're my bestie and always will be! I won't ever let people hurt or harm you in any way! Happy Monday, can't wait until we leave tomorrow!XD
Posted by Sarena, 8/4/09 at 2:35 AM
bff
my bff is the best n most precious thing i have
Posted by boots, 8/4/09 at 7:17 AM
Naomi
Your one of the best people I have ever met. Anyone who has you in their life is a really lucky person. Your awesome and I'll love you always :)
Posted by Shaneka C. Martin, 8/4/09 at 2:24 PM
CourtCourt
Girl your my couz and my bff cant wait untill we go on vaca with me and the fam lLuv ya ttyl
Posted by VirginiaPaige, 8/4/09 at 7:15 PM
Esha xXx
I love my best girl, shez the best! got me thru so much, cant liv without u s.s!
Posted by Esha xXx, 8/5/09 at 11:27 AM
kylie you rock
kylie your my bff1 you rock
Posted by rachel, 8/5/09 at 9:18 PM
Male & Female Best Friends
My best friend is a male. I love him to peices. He look's after me and I know he love's me like I love him. I do the best I can for him. Also, I found out how sweet he is by holding my hand when we cross the road.
Posted by Sophie., 8/6/09 at 2:17 PM
bffs rock
all bffs rock i would knwo i have 5 bffs and they never let my down and i never let them down
Posted by emily , 8/6/09 at 7:52 PM
My best friend is a boy......
He "gets" me sometimes and then other times he just has a blank stare. Then again I don't know if he has a crush on me........
Posted by Da Kicking Flamingo, 8/6/09 at 7:55 PM
my best girl
Chantel you are my number 1 bff you are the most wonderful thing that hapend to me. You are the most honest person an kind. An if any one say diffrant well i dont care because you are my best friend an always will be. I love you
Posted by Diana, 8/7/09 at 6:09 PM
Yasi
Yasi you rock!!! Your my BFF!
Posted by Hannah, 8/9/09 at 12:20 AM
Hey hailey
Hailey you are the most kind ,caring person i have ever met in my life.i can see our friend ship in the future.u got me thru the bad times and took upfor me thz ttyl bffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffff
Posted by Kristina, 8/9/09 at 1:30 AM
My BFF: Marissia
Marissia is awesome! Shes my BFF furever! Also I just got on Girl World Daily! Toatally awwwwwwesome!
Posted by $BlingBaby$, 8/9/09 at 2:15 PM
love
edith,you are my friend forever.never gonna leave you.
Posted by florence lawrence, 8/9/09 at 2:20 PM
bff
my bff lauren coon is my best friend
Posted by luv bug, 8/9/09 at 6:15 PM
we rock
my bff rock. They're the best. Jul and Ariel I love you. Your the number one. Of course I to.
Posted by bff forever, 8/12/09 at 10:58 AM
To Sophie
That's what my best friend does and I found out he likes me. Not suprising but any boy who hangs with me likes me. Too bad my best friend isn't hot......
Posted by Da Kicking Flamingo, 8/13/09 at 1:49 PM
puberty
i soooo emberessed! i have hair all in my pubic area! and i am so skinny that i think when i get in like 7th grade i will still have NO breasts1
Posted by emily, 8/14/09 at 12:11 AM
oh well
who cares when u get breasts because they come when they come
Posted by kaitlyn, 8/18/09 at 3:10 PM
bff
my bff abbs is the best. i try hard to keep her my bff. love ya abbs! (like a sis) :D
Posted by laura , 8/19/09 at 7:59 PM
Advice
Dear BFF Alert, Maybe you should try to get your friends to like eachtoher. If not then you have to make the decsicion if you want to keep one friend and lose another. I've been in the same situation. But tell both of them how you feel. Remember that it's your decsion. If this doesn't help, I'm really sorry but I hope it does. =)
Posted by Mrs.Lautner, 8/19/09 at 8:25 PM
to a
love ya since kindergarten happy bff day on agust 27
Posted by mikmikkeek11, 8/20/09 at 1:50 AM
Friends
I had a friend who I thought I could trust, but she told everyone in my grade of this thing that scares me so bad that I cry or even scream. She totally stabbed me in the back. Before that happened I trusted everyone in my grade, now I can't trust most of them. She doesn't know that I know that it was her and what's really horrible is that she still acts like she wants to be my friend!
Posted by Cati, 8/20/09 at 5:02 PM
My ex-bffs bff
When I went to PNEU(school in Cameroon,Yde) in grade 2 I had friends one of those friends were Mechane(my best friend today) she was really nice with me but she had a bf who since Kindergarten and her bf hated me(Effie) one day ppl said I wanted to kill her but that was wrong I never said that ppl believed her and told the teacher but when we were in grade 4 she says sorry for waht I've done in the past and I say it's okay but now in grade 5 she says I'm a gr8 friend and she wants to be my bff and I keep telling her I'm not sure but we've been really friends in grade 3 and Mechane is my reall bff she never done something likle what Effie's done she better than Effie that's why I love her to since I came Mechane and Effie aren't bfs well since grade 5 I've been her second bf and Effie her first but know it's the ippiste now I'm in grade 6 well it's still summer in 3 weeks I'll be wish me luck bye
Posted by Daniele, 8/24/09 at 9:55 AM
<3
i love ya besties, ur amazing!!!
Posted by BEAUTIFUL, 8/24/09 at 11:19 AM
first peroid
its not that bad
Posted by emily, 8/25/09 at 7:50 PM
my opinion
for me, i think that the friend is the best thing in our lives like a teens and i have a nice friend h love her soooooo mush (who want 2 be my new friend??0
Posted by arabian girl, 8/27/09 at 11:01 AM
Raquel Kell..
i love tht chick with all my heart.. buhh lately she hasn't been there for me at all.. i thought i could confy in her with everything but she just threw me under the bus the coldestt, she betrayed me for other girls tht are i guess "more poplular"? buhh whateever, i just hope i make a good friend i can actually trust and tht wont turn on me,, and soon..(=
Posted by *sigh*, 8/31/09 at 5:02 AM
Belle <3
Mi best friend in the hole world is Belle.She is mi world and i dont kno wat i world do w/o her.she iz the butter 2 mi je=lly & the creamer 2 mi coffee.She is mi best friend 4 ever lasting life (bffell) I LOVE her SSOOOOOOOOOOO much!!!
Posted by Erica <3, 9/22/09 at 12:21 PM
bff
my bff is the best gal in the world. she's sweet & she's always there for me when i need her. i don't know what i would have done without her !
Posted by janet, 11/2/09 at 7:02 AM
everyone has to know this
don't you think that everyone should know these rules so friendship is between evryone?
Posted by popgirl, 11/3/09 at 9:09 PM
Have a great dog, cat, ferret, etc., you want everyone to see?