Girlfriends  Rule!

Female bonding is never more powerful than when you’re a teen! Like food and water, friendships are a basic need -- a mandatory component to a girl’s happiness. So how can you safeguard your most important friendship? Here are some suggestions for keeping this bond kickin’ for the long haul!

1. Show you appreciate her Surprise her now and then with her favorite candy bar or magazine. Invite her to join your family when you’re doing something fun. Send her a ridiculously mushy friendship card … just because.

2. Listen when she talks She’s there for you when you’re down and never says, “You told me that already,” even if you have. Be there for her in the same way. Ask questions to show her you want details.

3. Put the friendship first Don’t blow your best friend off for people who might not be around forever. That includes the cute guy who asked you to his game when you promised you’d help her pick a prezzie for her baby bro’s b-day. Or the popular girl who invited you over Friday night after you and your BFF already made plans.

4. Keep her secrets Don’t ever betray her trust. Never spill anything she confides in you, unless it’s something that may put her in harm’s way. An example? If you know she’s been purging her lunch, you’re a good friend to tell a parent she needs help.

5. Always have her back Stand up for her, whether she’s around or not. She needs to know she can count on you to be on her side. If you happen to disagree with how she handles a particular situation, tell her -- but in private.

6. Let her know when you’re upset with her Work out problems rather than ignoring them. Anger and resentment build up when unexpressed. Don’t attack, just calmly tell her how you feel and why.

7. Apologize when you’re wrong Don’t get defensive. Instead, learn to accept who she is and not expect her to always agree with your view on things. Keep this in mind: It’s better to lose the fight than the friend.

While guys have friends to do stuff with, girls share their lives with their friends on an intimate level. These relationships are strong enough to raise self-esteem, battle peer pressure and genuinely last … forever. How lucky are we?!?

RelationsHip Tip

The Science of Friendships

You can’t form a bud bond in a test tube, but here’s what some recent scientific research on friendships has turned up:

  • Females seek out friendships when stressed, and it has to do with brain chemistry and hormones. That’s why males react in the opposite way and prefer to be alone when under stress.
  • Friendships are important, even in old age. A recent study found that senior citizens who have an active social life experience memory loss at a slower rate. Remember that!

Comments

miley Says...

to my bff

happy friendship day

Posted by miley, 8/3/09 at 4:57 AM

bffs Says...

r

awesome. they keep me alive

Posted by bffs, 8/3/09 at 3:08 PM

BFF ALERT Says...

help

my friend abby has known me since 1st grade but she does not get me then i meet this girl haily and she gets me but abby does not want me hanging around her but haily under stands me unlike abby and abby is so mean to me but she makes me hang out with her but I dont help

Posted by BFF ALERT, 8/3/09 at 5:50 PM

Sarena Says...

To Jolene!!!

I love you Jolene! You're my bestie and always will be! I won't ever let people hurt or harm you in any way! Happy Monday, can't wait until we leave tomorrow!XD

Posted by Sarena, 8/4/09 at 2:35 AM

boots Says...

bff

my bff is the best n most precious thing i have

Posted by boots, 8/4/09 at 7:17 AM

Shaneka C. Martin Says...

Naomi

Your one of the best people I have ever met. Anyone who has you in their life is a really lucky person. Your awesome and I'll love you always :)

Posted by Shaneka C. Martin, 8/4/09 at 2:24 PM

VirginiaPaige Says...

CourtCourt

Girl your my couz and my bff cant wait untill we go on vaca with me and the fam lLuv ya ttyl

Posted by VirginiaPaige, 8/4/09 at 7:15 PM

Esha xXx Says...

Esha xXx

I love my best girl, shez the best! got me thru so much, cant liv without u s.s!

Posted by Esha xXx, 8/5/09 at 11:27 AM

rachel Says...

kylie you rock

kylie your my bff1 you rock

Posted by rachel, 8/5/09 at 9:18 PM

Sophie. Says...

Male & Female Best Friends

My best friend is a male. I love him to peices. He look's after me and I know he love's me like I love him. I do the best I can for him. Also, I found out how sweet he is by holding my hand when we cross the road.

Posted by Sophie., 8/6/09 at 2:17 PM

emily Says...

bffs rock

all bffs rock i would knwo i have 5 bffs and they never let my down and i never let them down

Posted by emily , 8/6/09 at 7:52 PM

Da Kicking Flamingo Says...

My best friend is a boy......

He "gets" me sometimes and then other times he just has a blank stare. Then again I don't know if he has a crush on me........

Posted by Da Kicking Flamingo, 8/6/09 at 7:55 PM

Diana Says...

my best girl

Chantel you are my number 1 bff you are the most wonderful thing that hapend to me. You are the most honest person an kind. An if any one say diffrant well i dont care because you are my best friend an always will be. I love you

Posted by Diana, 8/7/09 at 6:09 PM

Hannah Says...

Yasi

Yasi you rock!!! Your my BFF!

Posted by Hannah, 8/9/09 at 12:20 AM

Kristina Says...

Hey hailey

Hailey you are the most kind ,caring person i have ever met in my life.i can see our friend ship in the future.u got me thru the bad times and took upfor me thz ttyl bffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffff

Posted by Kristina, 8/9/09 at 1:30 AM

$BlingBaby$ Says...

My BFF: Marissia

Marissia is awesome! Shes my BFF furever! Also I just got on Girl World Daily! Toatally awwwwwwesome!

Posted by $BlingBaby$, 8/9/09 at 2:15 PM

florence lawrence Says...

love

edith,you are my friend forever.never gonna leave you.

Posted by florence lawrence, 8/9/09 at 2:20 PM

luv bug Says...

bff

my bff lauren coon is my best friend

Posted by luv bug, 8/9/09 at 6:15 PM

bff forever Says...

we rock

my bff rock. They're the best. Jul and Ariel I love you. Your the number one. Of course I to.

Posted by bff forever, 8/12/09 at 10:58 AM

Da Kicking Flamingo Says...

To Sophie

That's what my best friend does and I found out he likes me. Not suprising but any boy who hangs with me likes me. Too bad my best friend isn't hot......

Posted by Da Kicking Flamingo, 8/13/09 at 1:49 PM

emily Says...

puberty

i soooo emberessed! i have hair all in my pubic area! and i am so skinny that i think when i get in like 7th grade i will still have NO breasts1

Posted by emily, 8/14/09 at 12:11 AM

kaitlyn Says...

oh well

who cares when u get breasts because they come when they come

Posted by kaitlyn, 8/18/09 at 3:10 PM

laura Says...

bff

my bff abbs is the best. i try hard to keep her my bff. love ya abbs! (like a sis) :D

Posted by laura , 8/19/09 at 7:59 PM

Mrs.Lautner Says...

Advice

Dear BFF Alert, Maybe you should try to get your friends to like eachtoher. If not then you have to make the decsicion if you want to keep one friend and lose another. I've been in the same situation. But tell both of them how you feel. Remember that it's your decsion. If this doesn't help, I'm really sorry but I hope it does. =)

Posted by Mrs.Lautner, 8/19/09 at 8:25 PM

mikmikkeek11 Says...

to a

love ya since kindergarten happy bff day on agust 27

Posted by mikmikkeek11, 8/20/09 at 1:50 AM

Cati Says...

Friends

I had a friend who I thought I could trust, but she told everyone in my grade of this thing that scares me so bad that I cry or even scream. She totally stabbed me in the back. Before that happened I trusted everyone in my grade, now I can't trust most of them. She doesn't know that I know that it was her and what's really horrible is that she still acts like she wants to be my friend!

Posted by Cati, 8/20/09 at 5:02 PM

Daniele Says...

My ex-bffs bff

When I went to PNEU(school in Cameroon,Yde) in grade 2 I had friends one of those friends were Mechane(my best friend today) she was really nice with me but she had a bf who since Kindergarten and her bf hated me(Effie) one day ppl said I wanted to kill her but that was wrong I never said that ppl believed her and told the teacher but when we were in grade 4 she says sorry for waht I've done in the past and I say it's okay but now in grade 5 she says I'm a gr8 friend and she wants to be my bff and I keep telling her I'm not sure but we've been really friends in grade 3 and Mechane is my reall bff she never done something likle what Effie's done she better than Effie that's why I love her to since I came Mechane and Effie aren't bfs well since grade 5 I've been her second bf and Effie her first but know it's the ippiste now I'm in grade 6 well it's still summer in 3 weeks I'll be wish me luck bye

Posted by Daniele, 8/24/09 at 9:55 AM

BEAUTIFUL Says...

<3

i love ya besties, ur amazing!!!

Posted by BEAUTIFUL, 8/24/09 at 11:19 AM

emily Says...

first peroid

its not that bad

Posted by emily, 8/25/09 at 7:50 PM

arabian girl Says...

my opinion

for me, i think that the friend is the best thing in our lives like a teens and i have a nice friend h love her soooooo mush (who want 2 be my new friend??0

Posted by arabian girl, 8/27/09 at 11:01 AM

*sigh* Says...

Raquel Kell..

i love tht chick with all my heart.. buhh lately she hasn't been there for me at all.. i thought i could confy in her with everything but she just threw me under the bus the coldestt, she betrayed me for other girls tht are i guess "more poplular"? buhh whateever, i just hope i make a good friend i can actually trust and tht wont turn on me,, and soon..(=

Posted by *sigh*, 8/31/09 at 5:02 AM

Erica <3 Says...

Belle <3

Mi best friend in the hole world is Belle.She is mi world and i dont kno wat i world do w/o her.she iz the butter 2 mi je=lly & the creamer 2 mi coffee.She is mi best friend 4 ever lasting life (bffell) I LOVE her SSOOOOOOOOOOO much!!!

Posted by Erica <3, 9/22/09 at 12:21 PM

janet Says...

bff

my bff is the best gal in the world. she's sweet & she's always there for me when i need her. i don't know what i would have done without her !

Posted by janet, 11/2/09 at 7:02 AM

popgirl Says...

everyone has to know this

don't you think that everyone should know these rules so friendship is between evryone?

Posted by popgirl, 11/3/09 at 9:09 PM

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