Make Nice With Mom
When it comes to mothers and teen daughters, you can bet there are conflicts about hair, friends and messy bedrooms! How can two people who love each other (admit it!) disagree so much?
Until recently, Laura, 13, felt she could confide in her mom about anything -- boys, grades, her period, whatever. She loved just hanging out with her. But lately, Laura admits, being around her mom is…stressful. “My mom always asks questions, like a detective. I feel she doesn't trust me anymore. She’s always criticizing me!”
Laura's mom sees it differently: “My daughter used to run into the house after school to tell me about her day. Now, I have to prod to have a conversation, or I wouldn’t know anything. I ask about her life because I love her. It’s not criticism.”
Truth is, you will wake up one day (maybe many years from now) and wish for a fab relationship with your mom. It helps to lay some groundwork now.
1. Make it a movie night Kick it on the couch with some popcorn and watch a flick with Mom! Movies are great equalizers because you don’t have to talk, yet there’s something intimate about it. Choose a light comedy -- nothing too heavy unless you want to end up in a too-deep convo.
2. Hit the mall Shopping is another good equalizer. Have fun trying on funky clothes together. Ask her opinion about a pair of jeans and help her update her style. You’ll be surprised at how much enjoyment you’ll get out of it -- not to mention those mad boots you’ve been wanting!
3. Say it in a card Having a hard time expressing your feelings? It’s often difficult to communicate face to face. Whether you have a gripe or just want to tell her you love her, write a note. Leave it on her pillow or in the car. She’ll get the message!
4. Help out Just like you, she goes through crazy times. Does she work all day and come home to a mess of chores? Lend a hand. No need to scrub floors, but a little effort goes a long way. Straighten your room, empty the dishwasher or do your laundry -- without being asked!